When it comes to building bonds with others, the way we approach them matters the most. Our behaviors have a significant impact on our relationships. Sometimes, we judge others without putting ourselves in their shoes, leading to aggressive approaches. Even judging ourselves can result in developing an inferiority complex and lack of confidence. It is crucial to observe ourselves, understand our limits, and identify and overcome our fears. Being self-aware and assertive, rather than aggressive, is important.
To create a comfortable space for the person we care about or want to be in a relationship with, we need to have a generous heart, a prudent mind, and patience. Positivity, empathy, compassion, and humbleness help foster healthy relationships. As Mother Teresa said, “The more we judge people, the less time we have to love them.” Additionally, each of us has our own way of behaving and expressing ourselves, which varies from person to person. There is no absolute right way; the situation defines what is appropriate. Choosing the right behavior suitable for the circumstance allows us to interact correctly and negotiate with others.
Louise describes chairs that are situated on concern, where she genuinely cares about the situation. In real life, however, many individuals, including ourselves, often choose to sit in thoughtless, unconcerned chairs in certain circumstances, or even throughout our entire lives. Being around those individuals often hurts people’s feelings. The behavior we display in front of others is like different chairs, and we are the ones who have to choose which chair to sit on. The control of our actions and the impressions people receive from us is in our own hands. In that case, we need to be big-hearted, like a Giraffe, which includes connection, vision, empathy, tolerance, understanding, and actively listening to others. Sometimes, we have to wait patiently and be understanding of others’ behavior. To quote Friedrich Nietzsche, “You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, it does not exist.”
We are different in our actions and ways of thinking, so we should not judge anyone without knowing the exact reasons behind their actions. Instead, we should try to see through their actions and wait until the truth reveals itself.
As social beings, we spend most of our time interacting with people. Therefore, it is important to cultivate healthy relationships with them. This can lead to success and fruitful plans. For this to happen, knowing ourselves is as important as understanding others, empathizing with their situations, and making them feel comfortable around us. As human beings, we have the ability to grow and transform our nature.
Moreover, we must learn to stop the stories we tell ourselves, which are often fabricated in our minds, and open up communication. Having an open mind paves the way for better communication in both our social and business lives. Our small positive approach to other people can bring great happiness to their lives, and it doesn’t cost any money. Therefore, we should motivate ourselves to interact with our loved ones and dear people with a positive attitude and embrace the differences between us.
